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Friday, June 10, 2011


The Virtues of Vibrators by Silvia Violet

I was recently shocked to discover that my friend who was turning forty had never owned a vibrator. Really? I thought. Never? I love vibrators. I have a small arsenal of the devices myself in a variety of shapes and sizes. To me, buying a vibrator (or any other sex toy) says you're willing to take charge of your sexuality and experiment with what pleases you. So today I want to take a few moments to extol the virtues of vibrators.

I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that a larger percentage of women and men who read erotica own vibrators than is true of the population at large. But if you haven’t ever bought one, this article has great suggestions for what to consider when making your first purchase.

Many people consider vibrators something a woman uses for masturbation and plenty of vibrator owners never let their partners know they own one (or two or three). But for me, my vibrators are not something I’ve hidden away from my husband hoping he won’t realize I use them for solo play. I don’t view them as a partner replacement, but rather as tools that can enhance sex both with a partner and without.

While for many people phallic is the shape that comes to mind when they hear “vibrator”, these devices come in all shapes and sizes and are designed for many different functions – clit stimulator, g-spot stimulator, vibrating butt plugs, almost anything you can imagine. Vibrators can be used on any erogenous zone by you or your partner and even on regions of the body you may never have considered erogenous before. And they aren’t just for women. Vibrators can feel great on a man’s more interesting bits as well. So I encourage you to see if you can come up with some new ways to play with these versatile tools.

Follow this link to read some interesting statistics about vibrator use, including the fact that men and women who use vibrators have, on average, less sexual dysfunctions.

For suggestions on how to introduce a vibrator into a relationship, go here:

While vibrators do not take center stage in my upcoming release, Shifter’s Galaxy: Accommodating Desire, I can assure you that the heroine, Lucy Vasilia, owns her fair share. She is a woman who believes in taking charge of her own sexuality and seeking out what pleases her even if others would judge her for it.

Shifter’s Galaxy: Accommodating Desire by Silvia Violet
Changeling Press

Lucy Vasilia is the director of the Alkestis Market, a well-run trading center catering to both legitimate and black market concerns. She's not a woman who normally mixes business with pleasure, but shipping tycoon, Ian Hadley's dominating presence and cool control make her knees weak. When he matter-of-factly proposes a three way with his lover, Security Chief, Connor Langley, she decides to make an exception and give herself over to pleasure for an afternoon. But Ian and his dark, dominating lover want far more from her than a few hour’s dalliance. They intend to make her acknowledge their soul-deep connection, and they won’t be satisfied until they’ve claimed her in every possible way.


Ian Hadley opened the door to the reception area for the Alkestis offices. A Vindolesian with the characteristic grass green hair and onyx eyes burst out of Ms Vasilia’s office. “Stupid bitch,” he yelled as he threw a nano tablet at the receptionist, narrowly missing her head.
“If that slut thinks she can keep us out of her fucking market, she’s even stupider than I thought.”
Ian stepped into his path. “You would be wise to retract that last statement.”
The Vindo shoved at Ian’s chest. “Fuck off, asshole.”
In one swift motion Ian drew his plasma gun and shoved the man up against the wall, weapon pressed under his chin. “If I or one of my employees hear you refer to Ms. Vasilia like that again, those will be the last words you ever speak.”
“Jeez, lighten up man. You fucking her or something?” Ian shoved the weapon harder against the man’s chin. The Vindo made a choked gasp. “Fine. Fine. I’ll lay off your girlfriend.”
“I respect the women I do business with, and I will defend their honor even if that means some asshole has to die. Don’t let me see you on this station again.”
Ian stepped back and the Vindo scrambled to the door and disappeared down the corridor.
Lucy Vasilia electronically signed a document and folded her nano tablet before looking up at Ian Hadley. She made a final, slow perusal of his well-toned physique, suppressing a sigh that their meeting had come to an end. “That should conclude our business. I’ve sent a copy of the contract to your ship’s computer.”
He smiled, a slow, sensuous curve of his lips. “Excellent.” He made no move to leave her office.
“Did you have further questions?” Lucy managed to keep her tone professional though he made her want to purr.
“I do have one question.” He paused, his bright blue eyes hot and unrelenting. “Would you like company?”
Lucy titled her head and stared at him. “For what?”
His smile deepened. “When I fuck you.”
Lucy sucked in her breath. “Presumptuous, aren’t you?”
“I’ve seen your eyes drifting down to my cock. You want this as much as I do.”
She stared pointedly at his crotch. His erection threatened to burst one of the seams of his expensive suit. “You certainly are making a rather impressive display.”
He smirked. “Indeed.”
“I assume you’d like your Head of Security to join us?”
“Ah, so you did do your homework.”
“I never meet with anyone I haven’t researched thoroughly. You hired Langley at Captain Devlin’s suggestion.” It was a statement, not a question.
Ian nodded. “Devlin said to tell you hello by the way.”
“Did he indeed? I take it Chief Langley isn’t fully human.”
Ian shook his head. “He’s not, but I have the impression you won’t be disturbed by his particular needs.”
She grinned. “I’m not as fragile as I look.”
“I never thought you were. So what will it be? How much hard use are you game for today?”
She nearly choked. “I can take whatever you and your lover want to give.”
“You may live to regret that statement. When?”
She held up a finger signaling him to wait and pressed a button on her desk unit, paging her receptionist. “Cynthia.”
“Yes, Director?”
“Cancel my next two appointments.”
Ian raised his brows, studying her curiously.
A sharp voiced erupted from the comm. Unit. “With all due respect, Director, the delegation from-“
“My business with Mr. Hadley is taking longer than expected. I will simply have to reschedule.”
“Yes, Director.” Cynthia sounded resigned.
Lucy looked at Ian, fighting the urge to tremble. The sexual heat in his eyes was devastating. She’d never slept with a business associate, and she’d certainly never cancelled an appointment so she could get a quick fuck in her office.
Then again, she couldn’t recall a man who’d ever turned her on as hard and fast as Ian did. She’d glimpsed him with his lover as she’d headed to dinner the night before. Connor Langley was a glorious mix of beauty and pure animal power. He moved with a panther’s grace, but she had no doubt he could kill most men one-handed. She’d been working her ass off. She deserved a treat. “Call Langley now.”
He pressed a button on his wrist unit. “Langley, you’re needed in the Director’s office.”
“Is there a problem, sir?”
“No, we are simply in need of a . . . consultation.”
“I will be right there, sir, ” Langley responded.

Silvia writes erotic romance and erotica in a variety of genres including sci fi, paranormal, and historical. She can often be found haunting coffee shops looking for the darkest, strongest cup of coffee she can find. Once equipped with the needed fuel, she can happily sit for hours pounding away at her laptop. Silvia typically leaves home disguised as a suburban stay-at-home-mom, and other coffee shop patrons tend to ask her hilarious questions like "Do you write children's books?" She loves watching the looks on their faces when they learn what she's actually up to. When not writing, Silvia enjoys baking sinful chocolate treats, exploring new styles of cooking, and reading children's books to her wickedly smart offspring.


Brannan Black said...

I have a small collection, for research purposes *wink* And lets not forget to keep plenty of batteries on hand.
Sounds like a hot story, Silvia.

Starla Kaye said...

Great blog, I enjoyed it and your thoughts.

Silvia Violet said...

Thanks Starla and Brannan!