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Wednesday, August 3, 2011


Stuck in Sex

Awww do they have to have sex one more time? Why can’t I just end it here with them cuddling or better yet, falling asleep!

As a writer of erotic romance, sex can be an integral part of the plot (and maybe the most interesting?!). I have fallen prey a few times to the tantrum throwing, kicking and screaming internal reaction to my editor saying “Add some sex here” or “expand on this sex scene”. It’s hard! (no pun intended). Not to mention trying to come up with different things for each scene so the reader doesn’t get bored (or worse) and put the book down!.

Getting around the issue can sometimes be just as hard as the issue itself! (At least something is hard in the book right? ;)) Writing m/m is no exception and neither is m/f, or f/f for that fact. Sex is sex and it can’t be the same thing over and over again (ok well the motions are the same and the end result is the same, but the journey is where the fun is at!) For me, I start with the basics. Character A and B go to bed together (or shower, or floor, or car, or tree… you get the point). Character A gets B hard and since we are all adults here, I don’t need to explain the birds and the bees (never understood that metaphor and I still don’t… does it have something to do with the birds going after worms that are clearly a phallic symbol for something else? Or the bees rubbing themselves all over those poor flowers? If you ask me, both are whores because they go after more than one worm and or flower! Anyway…) The end result is that sweet release.

One would think that it would end there. But if we as readers, read the same thing over and over again, the pleasure in giving pleasure wouldn’t be such… pleasurable now would it? Throw in some kink, different positions, perhaps try a new location, and you have added spice. Don’t get me wrong, spice all the time can get dull too. So switching it up from time to time and alternating between spice and vanilla is a good combination. But that’s not what this post is all about (well it is all about sex – Shocker, I know!).

Back to the original topic and dilemma, writing yet another sex scene as requested by the grand editor themselves.

If you are ever stuck in the same scenario, or perhaps just need to add another scene. Always remember to KISS and make it interesting. Add flare or spice where needed, and please don’t (and this is a big please and a big don’t) keep it the same or similar as before. Your characters are in love (or at least lust) for each other and have needs just like us real people. Fulfill their desires and urges and you will fulfill the readers as well!



Gabby said...

Good hints and tips! I'm commenting as a person who hopes to be able to tell her own intriguing stories some day!

Was it difficult for you to write your first love/sex scene in your book?

Were you uncomfortable at all thinking about that first love scene? If so how did you get past that discomfort?

Leslie Lee Sanders said...

"If you ask me, both are whores..."

Ah. I love it! I had a good laugh while reading that paragraph!

Good stuff.

Christina said...

Hi Gabby!!

Thank you for stopping by!

My first love/sex scene was incredibly difficult. It read very scripted and had no natural flow at all. I had a few friends read over it and after they declared it dead, I moved on to another story. The second story was a bit better. It didn't feel quite as scripted and actually flowed a lot better. Even after writing 6 or 7 stories, sometimes the movements and dialogue are pretty bad, so you just have to go back with a giant red pen and say to yourself "Oh this just isn't going to work!".

I wasn't uncomfortable at all. After all, we are all adults, so why not indulge in a little fun from time to time. I will admit, it did feel strange writing about two men going at it, but once you get over the initial shock (and drool) its quite nice.

Thanks Leslie! It was a blast writing it. I try and incorporate humor in a lot of things I do.