There are simple, easy things to do to avoid stress now, and in the future, while creating an heirloom to be passed down. Stop depending on your memory. Your brain won't be around after you're gone.
Take one ring binder with paper, a few page protectors, one ring binder zipper pocket, and a small clasp envelope. Now, as your holiday progresses, write down your memory aids in the binder, stick the recipes in the page protectors, and your receipts in the clasp envelope.
Some examples are: 1) a copy of your holiday card list, 2) your family traditions like lighting a bayberry candle or driving around town looking at decorated homes, 3) your gift list, and 4) all those family recipes, even the ones in your cookbooks. Keep a pen in the zipper pocket, and even your gift cards if you use them in place of money can be put in the pocket as well.
Your holiday binder doesn't have to be perfect. The goal is to save information. It took me three years to find all the recipes, and make photocopies. I enlarged one of the recipes off the back of a can of sweet potatoes that was fading and becoming difficult to read. I saved myself the horrible stress of digging through my entire cookbook collection and whimpering, "Where is it? Where is it?"
I now have six years of stress-free holidays under my belt. I kept the menu lists, and it brings a smile to my face to remember laughing in the kitchen with my daughters, slapping masculine hands attempting a quick taste-test, and the locations of where certain decorations work best.
Best of all, I now have an heirloom that's easily shared with all three of my daughters and grandchildren.